Been to rehab?

luelling · 04-06-2007, 08:33 PM

I know I drink too much and I have for a while now. Has anyone on here been to rehab? I've thought about going. I always told my wife that if we came into a bunch of money that would be my first objective (I don't want to drink away the fortune). About the only thing has kept me from going is that feeling of failure.....admitting I need help shows that I couldn't do something on my own.

**laura** · 04-06-2007, 08:41 PM

do you really think you couldnt do it on your own?

**LordOpie** · 04-06-2007, 08:43 PM

Dude, didn't you post a thread earlier about moving to Ireland? Seems like a fvcked up idea to me if you're an alcoholic.

My props to you if you need help that you're admitting it. Good luck, just leave jesus out of it.

**Skookum** · 04-06-2007, 09:55 PM

i went to rehab years ago. Is there a guarantee that it will be the trick to sobriety? It helped me get started that's for sure. i'm sitting here with over 14 years of sobriety now. And believe me it's an investment that pays dividends the more time goes on.

If you have come to discover that you are an addict/alcoholic as i am, you have taken what they say is the first step in recovery. What a good rehabilitation center will do will help you identify all the problems that keep you in the rut. Like your addictive thought process that reveals your false pride and develops the fear that you will be a failure if you ask for help. That's how addiction works, just flat out ****ed up thinking that moves you back toward your addiction.

Even today after years of recovery i have an addictive personality that throws out simialar bull**** in my head. But i've come to a place where i can identify it, choose to discard it, move on and be happy.

There is no miracle cure, and there is no guarantee for anyone including me. But if i can maintain honesty, and always strive to be my own best freind instead of my own worst enemy, i'll be alright.

Check around and do a little research on a good rehab center. Because just like anything they vary. AA is basically a free rehab, but if you got a line on a good rehab, do it up. We are made stronger from realizing our weaknesses, and constantly growing in life.

**Red Rabbit** · 04-06-2007, 10:26 PM

I would suggest reading "Cracked" putting broken Lives back together again By Dr. Drew Pinsky When my mother went to rehab that book helped me. After she got home, it helped her. Been sober over 5 years. He said it before, there is no miricale cure. You need to want to change. If you don't want to change you will fail. Get your wife into alnon aswell.

**sanjuro** · 04-06-2007, 10:41 PM

I don't have a drinking problem, but I have some close friends that do. Don't kid yourself, if you think you have a drinking problem, there is a toll your friends and family are paying.

Sorry to be so harsh, but so far zero of my friends have addressed their drinking problems, and I can only offer so much support.

**Dog Welder** · 04-06-2007, 11:00 PM

I had to face a lot of personal demons in the past. Some I'm still wrestling with. But throughout it all the one constant is that you have to make the decision to change. No matter what anyone else tries to tell or help you, only you can change you. In my experience, the times where I've made significant changes in my life, I had to hit rock bottom to analyze my situation and actually make a change for the better.

**BigMike** · 04-06-2007, 11:23 PM

I know some people that have been to AA and it changed their lives. If you think you have a problem, and you have realized it, you have begun the battle! That is a great step in the right direction. It is way better than the people I know that took divorce, police, broken lives, broken homes, and broken bones to figure out that there was a problem.

Become a friend of Bill W, and you will have more friends than you could ever imagine!

**BuddhaRoadkill** · 04-07-2007, 01:08 AM

Yes, 3 times.

It was always someone else who put me there so I didn't really want it. You have to want it for it to work. [The third time I had to admit something wasn't working and it took - sorta] Depending on your situation, you could skip the whole "treatment" and just head to an AA meeting. Try several different meetings. Each one has it's own flavor and personalities. Find one you can relate too and feel comfortable in - then keep going. Here's the catch: it's for people who have tried everything else and nothing worked. It's not just about the drink but a whole spiritual makeover.

And knock it off with the whole "failure" business. If you've tried to quit and just can't seem to do it, there's probably a reason. Asking for help isn't failure, failing to ask for help is.

The rewards are worth it if you choose the sober path. Just check out Skookums ride reports.

**stevew** · 04-07-2007, 05:10 AM

I'm surprised there are not more threads like this on here.

**jimmydean** · 04-07-2007, 08:34 AM

I have never, but that's because I watched my brother deal with a nasty crack habit growing up. He has been to treatment 3 separate times and it wasn't until he figured out he would never be "cured" that he has been able to stay sober for the last 12 or so years now.

Treatment comes in many forms. Some need a group, some read a book, some go "away" for a while. Just figure out what works for you and go with it.

For my brother, it was a personality disorder. He has issues with addiction, so he used it to become "addicted" to sobriety.

**SloMoJo** · 04-07-2007, 01:25 PM

Been to rehab?
You're prob not for real, but if you are....

You don't need dough to drop that habit.
Find an open AA meeting and go ... you'll hear a couple story that'll get ya thinking. Get the book and get a sponsor ... it works ..if ya work it.

If ya just jokin us .. then ya can kiss ma blarney stones.

Cheers

**LordOpie** · 04-07-2007, 09:04 PM

**geargrrl** · 04-08-2007, 12:19 PM

Originally Posted by laura

do you really think you couldn't do it on your own?

Most people can't do it on their own, hence the success of AA. Or, if they do quit on their own, they usually just quit the booze, or, "sort of quit", and they never address the behaviors that either helped them become drunks, or keep them acting like assholes anyway ( dry drunks)

**boostindoubles** · 04-08-2007, 01:58 PM

I've been to rehab, and it wasn't my idea. It was a good thing, looking back on it, but definitly not the 'cure' that got me sober. Eventually it got so bad that I stepped back and looked at my life and said what the ****, I am powerless over drugs and alcohol. my life was crappy to say the least. I started going to AA and changed my living arrangements, stuck with it, and got a sponsor. I'm sitting on almost a year and a half clean, and my life has changed alot for the better. (I'm 22) Did rehab do it? no. Realizing and accepting that I couldn't do it alone and getting help did do it for me though